What's Good for the Goose
Word around the Net had a post featuring the comments on Ace of Spades' blog about internet porn and how young women who wouldn't have thought of posting pictures of themselves years ago are filming themselves performing pornagraphic acts and posing naked for all the world to see. Monty, one of the commenters, had this to say:
Ladies, here's a tip: someday, you might want to get married to a guy you really love. This guy may surf the internet tubes, and may run across that embarassing
little video you did a few years ago when you still did "that kind of stuff". (Or your new guy's friends might help him out and just mail him the link or give him the DVD. 'Cause that's what friends do -- crush each other's hopes and dreams, and then laugh about it.) Your beau may not like the fact that his fiancee was famous for giving bjs to two guys at once, or dancing naked and drunk on a balcony while a group of guys groped her. I'm just saying. It's not the kind of thing that promotes the trust and matrimonial bond that makes for a long and happy marriage.
Basically, I agree with this guy. But here's the thing. I know there is porn and lots of it on the net, but I've never seen any, and I'm all over the place. Assuming the discovery was without a little help from his friends, was this hypothetical finance just playing around on the net and through misfortune found porn which just so happened to feature his lovely bride-to-be (most definitely a pitiable event), or was he actively seeking out porn and happened to find that the love of his life had beaten him to immorality? If the latter, then why is it okay for this hypothetical guy who's truly loved to be watching porn in the first place? And if it's okay for him to be viewing other men's daughters, sisters, wives, and mothers being raunchy, why shouldn't his own wife be plastered on the net for all the world to see? Why should we respect a man who views porn but not respect the women he's viewing? Honestly, guys, if you can film, view, or otherwise support the whorification of young women, don't think you are so special as to deserve a woman who would never think of acting that way herself. So, viewing porn? I'll just echo the above commenter: "It's not the kind of thing that promotes the trust and matrimonial bond that makes for a long and happy marriage." In fact, lawyers recently surveyed said that pornography was factoring into about half of their divorce cases these days. (That little tidbit was for free.)
There actually are some men who have no problem with their wives, daugthers, mothers or sisters being porn stars, prostitutes, strippers, or otherwise whorish. They're out of their minds, but at least they're consistent. However, it seems that many men enjoy viewing women behaving whorishly but would be incensed for other men to view their own loved ones behaving whorishly. O man, thy name is Hypocrite, and for once in my bleeding-heart life, I am not feeling your pain.
This isn't to say that it's okay for these young women to behave badly (although I pity them and think they may regret their youthful idiocies one day). It's just to say that if you're a guy and you want a lady for a wife, maybe you should try being a gentleman yourself. Otherwise, take what you get and know you aren't worthy of better. You're just not. Because what's good for the goose is good for the gander.